why i chose to go public with my breakup

"haha wow...that was pretty public. but honest."

one of my dearest friends was surprised at my forward and very public announcement of my break up. i imagine he wasn't wholly shocked, i really enjoy social media.

but it did trigger some thinking for me, and perhaps others are wondering why i chose to go so very public with my breakup. maybe not, but in case any one is, i wanted to put my heart out there, the way i have always tired to. 

first off, let me just say that my life is not that interesting. so i am not going to create intrigue and mystery around something that simply isn't. one of my biggest social media pet peeves is "private message me!" the comment people leave when someone comments on their cryptic post. no. not about that life. if you chose to do this, i do not judge you, just know i will not bite. if you want people to know, you post it. if you don't....don't.

second, i work to create a very realistic representation into my life. and i am all too wiling to post the smiles, laughs and precious moments. and my life is, thankfully, primarily made up of these. but there's hurt too. there's bad days and storm clouds. and i work to be authentic in what i post. so why would i not continue being who i have aimed to be from the get go?

third, i have worked hard to not drag my ex. he wasn't a bad guy. in fact he's a great guy. just not my great guy. but social media was a dividing point for us. it wasn't a deal-breaker for me, so i honored his request and stepped down from social media or limited it severely. going public and posting about my breakup was my choice. maybe that is arrogant and uncalled for, but i had the freedom to do that.

the final reason, is i wanted to let the people i have allowed into my life, into my hurt. and i did.

and you know what? i think i'm better for it.

i am better now. the last few months were faith months for me. i continued acting in love on faith alone. i thought the concerns i was having were surrender points- and i needed to love him through them. and man! i wouldn't trade that time for anything. i learned so so so much. about myself, relationships, love, what is and isn't healthy love and serving. i don't regret any of my relationship.

and i am walking into the next phase of my life with a clearer view of what is and is not important to me. and i thank him for teaching me that. i am not angry. i am not hurt. i am at peace. in fact, i'm happy. i'm happier than i have been in a long time.

if you have questions, ask them. i'm not here to create a mystery of drama. i'm an all or nothing girl, open book- what ya see is what ya get. take it or leave it :)

i'm a southern girl- sweet as pecan pie but don't cross me ;) just ask! but there's just not much more here to tell. and that's why i chose to go public with my break up.

sincerely,

m

smiling again :)